Today I did not get any balloons, flowers, perfume or chocolates. But what I did get was a house full of love this morning from my husband and our babies together!

My husband picked me up late last night from the airport as I have been doing a YogaBears teacher training in Liverpool.

So at malaga airport the family was reunited as I had Lennon and Jas with me and Mikey stayed with his dad.

I love any opportunity to celebrate love, but unfortunately I think valentines can be an anticlimax for some as they feel let down when the day (or partner does not reach their expectations)

Therefore expectations of others could leave us feeling disappointed and maybe that feeling of being disappointed leaves us feeling unworthy

This unworthiness May then be fuelled by images of grand gestures on insta or declarations of love ( all hopefully authentic) which makes you feel “why don’t I get that”

Truth is everyone’s love languages are different But if you don’t honour and know your own love language how can anyone else!

This is a lesson I have learnt within 21 years of being with my husband

I am obsessed with the chakras, so obsessed I have based my whole YogaBears philosophy around them!

The seven chakras are the main energy centres of the body. You’ve probably heard people talk about “unblocking” their chakras.

Unblocking your chakras refers to the idea that when all of our chakras are open, energy aka love can run through them freely. So your love language can be chakra balanced love.

When love can run freely harmony is created between the body, mind, and soul.

So you truly feel FLY   It is my belief that when you First Love Yourself the magic will happen!

 In my relationship with my husband we have become stronger the more I have lived my FLY life.

FLY life is the consequence of me becoming confident and soul full (for more of this check out my 21 days) and I believe having an awareness of the chakras has helped me to do this.

So Here are the 7 chakras in our body, their function and in my view their relation to the language of love!

The root chakra is the first chakra of the body and is located in the base of the spine.

Its role is to connect your mind, body and soul with the Earth.

This chakra is feminine by nature and gives us the feeling of being close to the earth.

It is known to keep us grounded and connected with the energy of the earth which helps us feel nurtured, safe and secure!

The love language of this chakra is being both a nurturer offering safety and security to others with love, tenderness and care.

As well as offering safety and security. This chakra also ignites its power when you feel content, connected and nurtured by your loved ones.

Therefore this chakra wheel spins most effectively when you do not over take the role of looking after, or being looked after. It truly is about balance to feel security in a relationship!

The second chakra the sacral is located right below the belly button.

This chakra is associated with the lymphatic system and is responsible for expressing emotions. It also helps you to get in touch with your sexual desires.

Wow how much power can one chakra have in a relationship! Being able to show emotion in a relationship is power, it is not all love hearts and cupid bows!

Sometimes the ones you love the most can make you the most sad and angry. It is important for any relationship that you have a healthy way to release these feelings to keep this chakra flowing and love growing.

In my experience it never works to let emotions build up or they become overflowing!

However I also think its important to have a ‘cooling off period’ if your emotions become triggered find a moment and quiet space to reflect cool down, have a cry if needed.

The cooling off period will help you find the right time to talk when you feel more in your power!

A balanced sacral chakra will also allow you to feel sexy and fulfill your sexual desires! and yes woman have desires too!

Relating back to our root chakra it is when we feel both safe and secure in a relationship that we can truly get playful and let our sexy chakra energy flow! So we feel both empowered and free.

The third chakra the solar plexus is located behind the naval region below the rib cage.

It is associated with self-confidence, self-commitment and wisdom. This chakra is also responsible for the ‘gut feeling’. , Gut feeling is getting a cue that something or someone isn’t right for you.