Sometimes I become mad at myself for mistakes I have made in the past.
“Why did you you go against your inner knowing?”
“Why did you let yourself down”
However this is a Complete and utter waste of time. It’s good to reflect on your actions so you can discover what works and does not work for you.Nevertheless it’s counterproductive to waste energy on the past. While your mad at the past your missing joy in the future!so reflect and let go.
Sometimes in life we can carry around a back pack and what’s starts off as a cute little bag for the back eventually becomes a back pack filled with the past.
The past can become like rocks of destruction. These rocks of destruction can hold you back from the future! The key is to keep the back pack empty with regrets from the past.
Instead just keep a little journal of guide posts so you don’t make the Same mistakes. (more of this in my FLY eBook)
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
As long as you don’t repeat the same mistakes forever they can become a blessing.
For me I have discovered that it has been when I have made my greatest mistakes that I have also made the biggest progress! (check out my Recovering Your true self free Ebook mylyslife.com/e-books/free-alcohol-recovery-ebook/
You live and you learn!
If you feel you have become stuck in a cycle of repeating the same mistake, discover the reason you are making it!
As discussed while you don’t want to dwell on your mistakes, reflecting on them can be productive. Ask yourself a few tough questions:
What went wrong?
– What could I do better next time?
-What did I learn from this?
-What I’m I grateful for about this experience?
In your journal or I phone write down your responses and you’ll see the situation a little more clearly. Seeing your answers in front of you can help you think more logically about an irrational or emotional experience.
Beating yourself up for your mistakes won’t help you on your journey but letting go will!
Crisis times are crucial times to let go!
As Kathleen Norris reminds us, the Greek root of the word crisis is “to sift”, as in, to shake out the excesses and leave only what’s important. That is the magic of a crisis.
It shake things up until we are forced to hold on to only what matters most. The rest falls away. While what remains is ready to glisten and sparkle!
Crisis truly is a magical metamorphosis, a time to nurture and honour your self!
The Life Cycle of a Butterfly as an analogy of Crisis
- THE EGG- you begin your journey
- LARVA (CATERPILLAR)-you experience your journey
- THE PUPA (CHRYSALIS)- some of those experiences will bring, mistakes and pain, you embody a chrysalis of crisis!
- THE ADULT BUTTERFLY-you shake and sift away what does not serve and FLY
Remember You are not your mistakes. Find gratitude to that inner god/goddess who is driving you through this magical journey of life!
‘My response is that not only will a grateful attitude help—it is essential. In fact, it is precisely under crisis conditions when we have the most to gain by a grateful perspective on life. In the face of demoralisation, gratitude has the power to energise. In the face of brokenness, gratitude has the power to heal. In the face of despair, gratitude has the power to bring hope. ‘
So crisis can make us more grateful—but research says gratitude also helps us cope with crisis.
Consciously cultivating an attitude of gratitude builds up a sort of psychological immune system that can cushion us when we fall. There is scientific evidence that grateful people are more resilient to stress, whether minor everyday hassles or major personal upheavals.
The contrast between suffering and redemption serves as an amazing base for practising gratitude:
What doesn’t break you makes you stronger!